10 Techniques To Control Your Anger

Do you always get angry whenever something unexpected happens? If the answer is yes, this is the perfect article to provide you relevant information to controlling your anger.

The reason behind getting angry is that our expectations are not fulfilled by others or we are forced to do some actions which we dislike. It is a natural, healthy emotion. But it’s important to deal with in a positive way. If you are not able to control your anger, it can become problematic to your Health or Relationships. Controlling anger does’not mean that you will never get anger. Anger control is required for helping you to avoid health-risks and improve your relationships around you.

In this article, I have explored 10 most effective ways for controlling your anger.

Recognizing Anger:-
You should recognize your anger before learning any techniques to control it. You need to recognize the psychological signs of anger. Some psychological signs are ; anxiety, stress, raising your voice, sweating, sad, depressed, increased heart rate , grinding your teeth, etc. You also need to answer these questions like what people/event/surroundings make me angry.  How does my angry behavior affect others? What do I do while feeling angry? Do I hurt myself by taking pills? Do you break things around you? Do you hit other person? You need to continuously ask these questions to recognize your anger severity.

Counting Down:-


You always heard this technique so many times from our elders. But we never tried to implement it in our life. Counting down is the greatest way to forget about the current situation and feel better. One should start counting down from 100 to 1. It gives you a chance to think before act. This technique is very simple and still very effective.

Repeat A Mantra:-
Whenever you become angry on someone, you should try to repeat a mantra or a word or a sentence that can help you to calm down. It can be like “OK” or “All is well” or “Relax” or “Take it Easy”. Repeat that word again and again to yourself which will ultimately help you to reduce your anger.

Talk To Someone:-

It is very important to express your anger in front of the one you trust the most. Talk to your friend about what is bothering you. He / She could be your best friend/ Partner/Family member who can probably provide you the solution. While doing so, it will help you to release your pain and make you feel better.

Think Before You Respond:-


When we are getting angry, we are out of control & abuse the person that we will regret later. You should be careful with your words. One should take a few moments before saying anything and think whether it is appropriate. By doing so, you can avoid hurting other person. Eventually, it will improve your relationships.

Listening Music:-

Music is the best way to feel relaxed and happy. One should start listen their favorite music. By listening favorite music, your mood will change instantly and you will feel better. It will help you to forget about your anger. Also, one should start playing musical instrument like guitar, piano, etc.

Write Down In Your Diaries:-
Writing down your feelings / expressions is proven to be the most effective way. It is one of the best tools to express your emotions. You can write whatever you feel and let your thoughts flow freely. It will help you to figure out your anger triggering thoughts. By identifying your triggers, you can easily try to control the responses to those triggers. It will surely improve your mood and manage your anger.

Do Exercises:-


Physical activity can help you to reduce your stress and anger. When you exercise, your body releases endorphins which give you a positive feeling in the body. You can go for a walk or do yoga or go to the gym or some breathing exercises. It will improve your mood and decrease the feeling of anger, anxiety and stress.

Practice Empathy:-


There is one saying,” Before you judge a man, walk a mile in his shoes”. It means we need to understand his/her experiences, challenges, thought process etc. It is very critical to empathizes with them who are angry on you.  No one is born with empathy, but we should try to practice it to reduce anger feeling. It is so easy to dislike someone and being judgmental about them. Instead of this, we can all judge each other with kindness and empathy. By showing empathy to others, you are also being kind to yourself and feeling happy. It can help you to slow down your aggressive behavior.

Laugh:-


The last thing you can do is laugh. It is the best medicine to get over from negativity. It can help you to release the frustration. By doing smile, you can stimulate positive vibration for yourself and you will get to know that whatever had happened had a reason behind it. Sometime, you should let it go and laugh over that matter and you will find how insignificant it was.

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Move On After Breakup

Did your lover/ partner recently break up with you? It’s very hard to face this situation alone. Nowadays, many youngsters are facing same problems. But, it is not the time to watch sad movies and listen sad songs. It’s the time to learn new things. It is the opportunities that you are getting to find yourself and improve yourself for the better future. When we are involved with someone, somehow we forget about our life journey and destination. No one can help you to move on after breakup except yourself.So, one should take a breakup as their opportunities. I am giving you some advice which will help you to get over after a breakup.

Meditation and Exercise:-
After breakup, we are suffering from the constant pain. We feel like that we are the only one who is facing this problem. So, the meditation will give us focus and concentration of our life journey. It will help us to get rid from negative thoughts. It is the good way to release our pain and frustration. By doing exercise, we will feel healthy physically as well as mentally and it will nourish our life.

Positive Affirmation:-
We should tell a little daily positive affirmation to ourselves. It can help us to remind that we are an awesome person with variety of skills. After a breakup, our mind generates lots of negative vibrations for ourselves as I was not perfect or I did not deserve happiness or I will not be successful for the future relationship etc. The best thing we should do to get rid from these thoughts by constantly feeding self positive affirmations. So, we can find peace and acceptance for ourselves.

Stop Blaming Yourself:-
We regret after a breakup and believing responsible and start humiliating ourselves. We all are taking this as our personal failure. Remember simple rule of life if you love yourself, everyone will love you 🙂 So, this is the best practice to make you feel happy and love ourselves. It is the time to institute unconditionally self love. As a result, it will increase our self esteem and confidence.

Reconnect With Your Friends and Society:-
One should talk with their friends and make new friends. You should share your feelings with them. They might have faced the same situation before and could advise you from their experiences. You should try to reach out them on social media like Whatsapp, Instagram or Facebook which can lead you for online meet up and friendship. You should surround yourself with person who makes you feel comfortable. You will be surprised that how many friends you have with you who really love you and care for you.

Keep Yourself Busy:-
This is the best solution for any pain. If you are busy, you will forget about everything. You should keep yourself busy with the stuffs you enjoy the most like reading books, watching web series, playing games, dancing, listening music, learning new skills, etc. One should start explore what they want to achieve in their life.

Carrier and Job:-
One should take the breakup as an opportunity for their carrier and growth. You have stopped everything while you are in a relationship. Now its best time to think about your carrier. Your life is ultimately your own. And this can be a great opportunities to reflect on your goals and dreams. This is the time to prove yourself that you can do anything.

Spend Quality Time With Your Parent:-
When we spend quality time with our parents, we will get an opportunity to bond with them on deeper level. It can help to create strong bonds, love, connections and in coping with challenges and pain.

Makeover Yourself:-
The end of the relationship means the beginning of the new chapter in your life. You should find out what kind of makeover you want for yourself. You should do something to change your physical appearance and mental state of mind. It may be a new haircut, straightening, joining gym etc, whatever the change you want to feel better for you. You should purchase an outfit that makes you flawless and wear beautiful jewelry. It will help you to boost your confidence level. You can treat yourself for massage,facial,Mani-pedicure etc. When talking about makeover, I am not telling you to focus only on the outward change in appearance. But you must apply this makeover concept to your emotional state of mind by doing meditation and exercises.

Going On The Vacation:-
Travel can be definitely a good thing when you want to forget about the old memories and recreate the new memories. Along the way, you will discover the new things. It will show you how beautiful the world is. So, one should travel to that spot which you have always wanted to go. It can also help you to make new friends.

Block Them On Every Social Media:-
It’s recommended to keep yourself away from your past. This is the only way to stop following that person’s daily activities. For example on whatapp,you will be checking online status frequently and eventually becoming sad by knowing that person might be talking with some other person which will disturb your mind. So, it’s one of the ways to move on.

Start Dating Again With Slowly:-
There is saying that the best way to get over someone is to get under someone else. You will start enjoying hanging out with other person again. Love can happen twice if you are ready to forget your past. One should be optimistic about their life and be open minded to enter new person in your life. One should indulge in relationship with someone else until they forget their past totally 🙂

Hope this will help you to get rid from recent breakup. Please feel free to tell me reviews about my writing.

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Nirali.