What do Women Want in a Relationship?

Every man says that it is difficult to understand what a woman wants in a relationship. Most men believe that women want big houses, travel, entertainment, gifts and so on. Are these the only things a woman wants? These questions have always been a topic of discussion for everyone. Actually women require a lot of attention, love, care, support and concern. At least, quite a lot more than what men require. Each woman is different from the other, and so are her expectations. Women don’t want self-centered men who always try to dominate them. Instead, they want someone who will stand by them and support them who they really are. There are some basic things women really want in a relationship and these have gone unchanged over many decades.

In this article, I want to discuss with you some detail of what women want in a relationship and what wives expect from their husbands. I’m so excited to share my thoughts on this and give you advice. Take your time to read the below points.

Respect

Respect is an important need that she desires to be fulfilled by you. There is a saying,” Woman wants a man who protects her like a daughter, loves her like a wife and respects her like his mother “. Every successful marriage is based on the foundation of mutual respect for one another. You don’t have to agree with all that she says, but try to consider her thoughts, opinions, beliefs as valuable contributions in the family. You must respect your wife’s wishes and her needs. You should not talk negatively about them in front of your family or friends. You should speak with her very politely and kindly especially in front of others about what she truly wants in a relationship.

Love

Everyone likes to know that they are valued and loved by their spouses. Especially women always want to hear this word “I Love You” from their partner frequently. These three magic words can help you to bloom your relationship even after 30 years of your marriage life. So, you should start showing your feelings and emotions in front of her, keep the romance alive and make her feel special. When women feel loved by their husband, she will be open up easily, able to share everything and will be completely happy in her life. There are many ways to show your love like giving her an unexpected hug or holding hands when you walk together.

Appreciation

Sometimes men start taking her for granted. This usually happens when you have been in a relationship for a long time. It’s every woman’s desire to be appreciated for whatever she is doing for her partner. It might be cooking, cleaning the house, supporting his career or taking care of his family. Being appreciated in a relationship makes them feel special and honored. Your few words of appreciation make her happy. You should start appreciating all the things she does every day for you and your family. Praise her for her qualities. It gives her satisfaction that she is still important to you and will always be the first person in your life.

Support

The most important thing that women want in a relationship is being supported for the decisions she makes whether it is related to career choice, family decisions, health issues or finance. She needs to know that you are always on her side. Your wife might have compromised on her career or hobbies to take care of you and your family. You should always support her in following her dreams for whatever goals she has decided for her future. If a man can truly support his wife, they can live happily forever. It can bring her a sense of security and a sense of pride.

Quality Time

Spending quality time with your wife should be the highest priority for you to make her feel closer, special and more connected. But, what does quality time mean according to her? It means spending time with her without interruption of anything. It does not mean watching television and web series together. It means sitting in a peaceful place, talking and communicating with each other. It can be for 30 minutes of your entire day or it might be hours. The amount of quality time doesn’t always matter. So, decide to spend few minutes with your wife without distracted from other things what exactly women want in a relationship.

Love Her Family

Spouses are equally liable to look after all medical, financial and domestic responsibilities of their in-laws if they need it. Husband should give equal amounts of love, concern, and respect to the wife’s family that he expects from his wife. Occasionally you should start visiting their house with your wife and start becoming an active and supportive member in their sorrow, critical and happy moment. You should also plan trips with them and call them to your place. If you become a son for your in-laws then your wife will give more respect to your family and vice versa. So every couple should start helping, understanding, serving and loving both sides’ parents. This mutual understanding can lead you to be a happy family.

Best Friend

Women have special bonds with their friends who enjoy spending time together, share similar interests, take care of each other, trust each other and feel a lifelong bond between them. Every woman wants to have a husband who is really her best friend. She seeks a friend in you, a friend who is always there to laugh, encourage, share, understand and support her. She wants you to be her advisor and help her in difficult situations when she needs you. If you are her best friend, she can talk to you about everything without fear of being judged or criticized. Ultimately, it will strengthen your beautiful relationship.

Surprise Her

Every girl loves to be pampered all of the time. A great way to make her feel special is by giving surprise to her and keeping the spark alive in your relationship. A surprise does not always involve an expensive gift and it doesn’t have to be given on a special occasion. You can simply bring her flowers or chocolates without reason. When she is facing some problems, you can plan a simple candle-light dinner, cook a special dinner for her, write her a love note, arrange a relaxing picnic, try doing chores for the day, buy little gifts for her and many more. Do something unique and special to make her feel proud that she married you. These are very small things that make a big impact on your relationship.

Give Her Space

It is also one of the most important things women want in a relationship. Each person needs space to grow as an individual. A woman’s life is not just about her husband, kids and family after marriage. She also deserves her private time to think about herself. It doesn’t really matter what she is doing in her free time, so long as she has been engaged in something outside of the relationship. Try to give them space in their professional career, pursuing their hobbies, working outside home, going outside with friends, visiting parents’ home etc. Ultimately, it will enhance your relationship in a healthy way.

Loyalty

Relationships are based on the foundation of loyalty and what exactly women want from her partner right from the beginning. In relationships, loyalty is all about honesty, trust and commitment even through the darkest times. Loyalty includes being honest about your thoughts and feelings and being 100% committed to her and dedicated to her. She desires a partner who is loyal and trustworthy so that she can stay secure and relaxed. Loyalty is about being honest with your partner. So, you should not hide any things from her and involve her in every aspect of your life. It will promote a long-lasting relationship.

Hopefully, with this article, you will be able to find out what women want in a relationship. Please feel free to share your thoughts and experience in the comment section.

Thank you so much for your kind support.

Nirali.

Healthy Marriage Relationship

Marriage is not supposed to be easy for any couple. It requires long term determination. Many people will tell you that marriage is hard and I agree with that because it requires your full attention towards your partner. It requires your constant show of affection, love and support for each other. It’s very difficult for everyone to handle all these in stressful life.

Relationship is very fresh and exciting during honeymoon period. We are constantly learning new things and getting new experiences for each other. We are constantly focusing on each other. Our aim is to make other person happy during first 6 months of marriage life. After that period, our feelings for each other is same but we are surrounding with so many things like work pressure, family pressure etc. The girl has to adjust in new environment. It’s difficult for her because she has come with different set of thoughts. So, the fight will start at the end. In each and every fight, both are right but who on the earth will tell us about more right person. As our aim is to proof our self right, this fight will increase day by day and we are insecure and fear about our relationship. I figured out some points which we have to remember and implement in our marriage life to make it healthy.

Love:-
Love is the most important thing in marriage. If you love your partner, you are able to do everything for his/her happiness. When you are in love with your partner, you always think about being together. Love is giving them last bite of chocolate, no matter how much you want it.  One should show his/her love in front of their kids. It is very important for children to see their parents loving each other and give them a sense of security.

Respect:-
Respect means how we treat each other on daily basis. Respect is reflected how we are talking with each other in front of others. If you disagree on something, you are still able to respect and value of each other’s opinion. You should speak with her/him very politely and kind way especially in front of others.

Honesty:-
One should maintain honesty with their partner. It may be financial and emotional. You should not ever try to hide anything with your partner because it will hurt you at the end. If you do something wrong, try to tell your partner as like your best friend. He / She will definitely understand and support you. Your partner should be your best friend rather than only husband or wife and should be able to share anything with you.

Fight:-
Fight is inevitable in every relationship but one should be more concerned how far it goes. It depends on our mutual understanding of each other. If it lasts for one day or a few hours, it is a healthy relationship. But if it lasts for a month without communicate with each other, it won’t be healthy relationship. You are able to communicate with open mind and honest way. One should never go to sleep with an unsettled fight.

Acceptance:-
We are expecting so many things from our partner. We have to accept each other for who they are and should not try to change as that change is temporary. This is the same person you have selected before so just accept it whatever he/she is. One should accept likes / dislikes of partner.

Appreciation:-
Appreciation is required in every relationship. If your spouse is helping you or doing something for you, just appreciate him/her saying he / she is the most important person of your life.

Forgiveness:-
Forgiveness is the key factor of any healthy relationship. If you have done mistake, one should be ready to admit it and ask for forgiveness. In this way, matter will be resolved easily with lesser time and the mind will remain positive.

Quality Time:-
You should spend quality time with each other which makes you feel refreshing. I am telling you one of my aunt’s lifestyle. She is 70 yrs old and still drinks early morning tea with her husband to spend quality time. So, decide to spend few minutes with your partner without distracted from other things. Also, you should arrange a small trip quarterly to spend quality time with each other.

Celebration:-
Celebration plays an important role in this generation. I am not telling you about every day celebration. It may be as simple as eating street food with your partner or it may be eating dinner in 5-star hotels. It varies from your lifestyle but the important thing is to celebrate it. You can also take a small gift for her / him to show your love and care. It is helpful to bloom your relationship.

Comparison:-
One should not ever try to compare your partner with someone else. Nowadays, people are always comparing that you are not like my friend’s wife. You are giving me a cheaper gift or not taking care of me like my friend’s husband etc. Everyone has different personality and uniqueness and no one is perfect in every task. We should accept this reality of life. Even siblings are not same with a same parent. So, one should try to find out the uniqueness of your spouse and appreciate them.

Intimacy:-
Intimacy gives feeling of being close, and emotionally connected and supported. As it becomes strong over time, one should be patient and give efforts to build it and maintain. There are difference kind of intimacies apart from sexual intimacy like emotional intimacy, financial intimacy, spiritual intimacy and creative (for example, cooking together) intimacy.

Hope this will help you to maintain healthy relationship with your partner. Please feel free to tell me reviews about my writing.

Thank you so much for your kind support.

Nirali.